So, you broke up with your ex…and now you are asking “Does my ex want me back?” It’s a good sign that you still have hope in the two of you. Unfortunately, it isn’t enough to actually know if he still wants you back. The most dangerous thing you could do is start making assumptions, so just stop. If you’re wondering if he wants you back, he’s probably wondering the same thing about you.
The most important thing is to not jump into conclusions. Why? Because it will only hurt if you get disappointed. And after a break up, you can’t afford to be hurt as much so soon. Don’t drive yourself crazy wanting to know what’s really going on. You know, and he probably knows it too, that you miss him. Give both of you some time.
Another important thing to remember is to be careful of dwelling on regrets. Don’t make decisions based on them. There’s no use blaming yourself, or him for the break up. Forget about the “what ifs” because you will never have an answer. And as tempting as it may seem, try not to play mind games with your ex. Forget about making him jealous, or acting like you are not interested just to make him curious and want you back. If ever such strategies do work, then he may want you for the wrong reasons. Just be yourself, and keep your priority in focus-you. Ask yourself first, “Do I want him back?” If not, why put yourself through all the trouble of asking “Does my ex want me back?”
How many times have you been thinking if he does want you back? Have you always been hoping the answer would be “yes”? There are a few ways of knowing that he does want you back. They are just signs though, so don’t take them as absolutes. If you’re already broken up, does he still email you or send you text messages? If he is, then he’s obviously still thinking about you and wants to stay in touch. Next, if your ex just keeps showing up at places he knows where you would be, then it’s not just a coincidence. If it has happened too many times, then it’s either he’s stalking you, or is looking for a chance to talk to you. Let’s hope it’s the latter. Third, if you are hearing from your common friends (the trustworthy ones) that he keeps talking about you whether in a good or bad way, he is definitely not over you. It’s a sign saying he’s not ready to move on yet. And lastly, although this may hurt you and may even make you despise him, if he is going on a “dating-spree” with several women, he is definitely hurting. He’s trying to compensate for the fact that he lost you.
After all the signs you’ve been receiving from asking “Does my ex want me back?” it’s up to you to know the right time. May be you should be the one to make the first move. If you think you could still be happy with him, and that your relationship was really special, set aside your pride and call him. The timing is all up to you. All relationships do go through rough times. If what you had is worth it, then fight for what may be your shot at a lifetime of happiness. If you truly love each other, things always have a way of working out.
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